Becoming Conscious

Detachment is defined as the realization that no one person or group of people can determine our life’s path. 

The challenge is in our ability to be open-minded and in developing an ontological viewpoint of life.  This requires us to reclaim our power from “false truths”, those limiting beliefs we have gathered to our bosom over our lifetime.  It also asks us to learn to act on internal direction (our higher self) and to discriminate between thoughts motivated by strength (truth) and those by fear and illusion (ego).

Becoming detached as defined above means assimilating certain perceptions from our mind into our bodies.  Have you ever said “I get it intellectually, but I just can’t make it part of who I am” (most of us point to our hearts)?    The concept of discernment and detachment is wrapped around merging with our truths and living them so that their power merges with our own energy.

Let’s work through an example of a truth that is affecting many of us right now.  “Change is constant”.  Mentally, we get it.  It’s all around us – but it terrifies us!  We are aging, people we love are dying, millions are unemployed and relationships are shifting.  Some of these changes take us YEARS to recover from because we had hoped that things would remain the same.  This truth feels like an enemy that has stripped us of happiness – but rest assured, “this too shall pass” and a new part of our life will begin.  This truth is reflected in all transitions – every new beginning starts with an ending. 

Conscious thought is the skill of releasing the old and accepting the new with the knowledge that everything ends when it is time to end, and the new follows in its own time.  Because we humans hate change that we don’t institute ourselves (and sometimes even when we do), what this means is developing the ability to live in the moment – knowing that tomorrow will be different.  It requires us to be vulnerable, letting life’s energies flow around and through us.  Striving to make things stay the same is as useless as it is impossible.  The goal is to understand that we can influence what happens tomorrow by our conscious choices, but we cannot control it.

The next time you imagine a change you would find extremely threatening, visualize that you are liberated from your attachments to the person or situation, and that you can create any options for yourself you want.  Envision this person/situation as no more than a thimble of energy in your life, rather than an sea of energy, and that a profusion of innovative power is running through you.  Now, imagine that the worst possible outcome comes from this change.  How will you respond?

Once we have assimilated that no one can determine our life’s journey, we recognize that the concept of giving that power to anyone else is an illusion.  Change is a part of a larger force that is moving us along our path.  If we choose to accept the illusion, it will hold us captive.  If the time was not right for us to move on, the change would not have happened. 

So, what happens when we are willing to dismantle our “ways of knowing” and open up to the possibilities?  We begin to ask questions:  What is life about?  What am I meant to do?  What is my purpose?  What is important to learn?  This is how we become conscious… by following the unknown, seeking the truth, taking action and consciously participating in the process of constant change.  And, at some point in the process, we no longer wonder “What’s my purpose?” because we are living it.

Georgia Feiste, owner of Collaborative Transitions Coaching, Inc., located in Lincoln, NE, is a personal growth coach, writer, and workshop facilitator.  She is also a Usui Reiki Master.  Georgia specializes in career, business and personal life transitions for people seeking change in their life.  She is uniquely skilled in providing support and encouragement as her clients set intentional goals to attain their desires, holding open the space they need to stretch and grow. Her passion is success grounded in purpose and passion, standards of integrity and priorities in life.    Her websites are, where you can find her blogs about business and career, , where she and many other coaches blog about mind, body, spirit and emotion, and where you can catch her thoughts on a wide variety of topics.  Georgia can be reached at (402) 304-1902 or you can schedule a 30 minute consultation via Automated Appointment.

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