Why Every Mom Needs a Gay Son

I just finished reading this wonderful article “Why Every Mom Needs a Gay Son”.  Can’t wait to show it to my son, it made me laugh as I remembered the good times we have had over the years. 

Not every Mom has the pleasure of “shop till you drop” with her daughter AND her son.  Joe and I have spent some wonderful afternoons at the mall – shopping for him, and shopping for me.  He has never hesitated to go into the women’s area of the store and help me pick out a dress or suit – in fact, his taste in mixing and matching is much better than mine. 

And, then there was the time after the PRIDE parade in Chicago when several of us went to one of the gay bars in Boy’s Town.  I was one of the few Mom’s in the crowd, but everyone knew because I had my Parents, Friends and Family of Lesbians and Gays (PFLAG) T-shirt on, and my I’M A PFLAG MOM button to boot.  Of course, my son wore his button “My Mom is a Goddess” button at my insistence.  The group was rowdy, but everyone took care of me as if I was a queen.

The blessing, though, has been more about my own personal and spiritual growth over the last 16 years since he told his father and me that he was gay.  While I knew several gay people, and enjoyed their friendship, it was not until then that I really began to know and love the community.  I have been blessed with so many really strong relationships with people who are thoughtful, kind, fun-loving, spiritual, and full of love. 

Several years ago, Karl and I informally “adopted” a lesbian couple – and are now proud grandparents to their two little boys.  They are the best parents I have ever seen, and their children stand head and shoulders over others in so many ways.  While we were asked to “grandparent” the little ones almost six years ago, we are the ones who have gained from the relationship.  It is an honor to know them, and spend time with them as family. 

I am proud to be part of the LGBT family as a Mom, and to be free to speak up and out for them. 

Yes, I agree.  Every Mom should have a gay son.  What an opportunity to grow in love and acceptance!

Georgia Feiste, owner of Collaborative Transitions Coaching, Inc., located in Lincoln, NE, is a personal growth coach, writer, and workshop facilitator.  She is also a Usui Reiki Master.  Georgia specializes in career, business and personal life transitions for people seeking change in their life.  She is uniquely skilled in providing support and encouragement as her clients set intentional goals to attain their desires, holding open the space they need to stretch and grow. Her passion is success grounded in purpose and passion, standards of integrity and priorities in life.    Her websites are http://www.collaborativetransitions.com, where you can find her blogs about business and career, http://www.rainbowbridgecoach.com , where she and many other coaches blog about mind, body, spirit and emotion, and http://www.georgiafeiste.com where you can catch her thoughts on a wide variety of topics.  Georgia can be reached at (402) 304-1902 or you can schedule a 30 minute consultation via Automated Appointment.

2 Responses

    1. Thank you, Marcia. As you well know, there are always two sides to a coin. But whatever side faces up, Joe is on his own path. I can only give him my blessings, and rejoice in the time I have with him. I love it when he says “Can we go to the mall?” because I know that I’m going to have fun, even if I don’t buy anything. I’m looking forward to our next Mother/Son pedicure date! LOL

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