Coaching

The Power of Choice

“Better to light a candle than to curse the darkness.”  – Chinese proverb

As I wrote my morning pages this last week (a morning mind dump so you can concentrate on what is creatively important for the day), I kept remembering that we have a choice in how we view our world. The thoughts we hold in our heart are reflected in what we see, what we pay attention to, and how we create our day to day lives.

A Beacon of LightWe get to choose! We can look out on a world of beauty, that beacon of light, or we can look at the darkness of the box we have chosen to live in.

Do we choose beauty, love and hope? Or, do we choose darkness, hate and fear? Do we choose to believe we are safe, or do we choose to believe that everyone is out to get us? Do we choose to be kind, compassionate, and understanding? Or, do we choose to scream, yell and be hateful?

Our thoughts are prayers. What we think about all the time is what will show up for us. This is powerful! We get to create our reality – the world we live in. And, while we do this, how does it ripple throughout our homes, our neighborhoods, our communities, and our world? How are you impacting the people around you?

We are facing the shadow side of our country manifesting in our politics and our streets. Many of our countrymen and women are choosing fear. The only way to fight fear is with love. And our job is to love in the face of this fear. To be mindful and compassionate. To embrace those who are trembling. And, to teach by our actions, words and creative living.

What is your world view? What is your choice? How are you impacting the environment around you?

Creative Clusters – Working the Artist’s Way

This week is the first of a thirteen week program I am working with several other creative folks. We are walking through The Artist’s Way, by Julia Cameron. This book has been used by hundreds of people to walk a Spiritual Path to Higher Creativity. I look at it, and I believe it is a twelve step program for artists wanting to step into their higher power. This is my second time through the program, and I know that each time participants walk away with another level of knowledge.

The first week on the agenda is to learn about Morning Pages – that awesome brain dump where you leave your lists, your fears, your ideas on paper, without edits or even much thought. It clears your head so you can be more productive and creative throughout the day.

We also begin making plans for a weekly Artist Date with ourselves, by ourselves. It doesn’t have to cost anything, and can be as simple as a walk in the park, a visit to an art gallery, a play, taking a class on writing..

American quilt stained glass panelMy artist date this week was a surprise message about a wonderful woman who was downsizing and wanted to sell her stash of stained glass and a variety of tools. I let her know that I would like to come see what she had, and considered that my “artist date”. Oh my goodness! Today marks the third day, third trip, to pick up the last of her stash. I am thrilled! I think I may have enough glass to keep me occupied with stained glass for the next five years! What a fantastic date with myself. The gift that keeps on giving.

If this is what I can expect, I can’t wait to start Week 2: Recovering A Sense of Safety.

Georgia

 

You Are A Leader? Really?

WhoAreYouI’m relatively active on Facebook, and somewhat active on Twitter. I’ve made some great friends, deepened some existing relationships, gotten clients, and connected with a number of people in leadership communities who are active in social media. I’ve been impressed with quite a few people, and admire most of them.

I have even participated with 20 of them in writing a book about character-based leadership, and our wish to see changes in how people perceive their role in leadership.

Here is my dilemma; my struggle:

I know I am not perfect. I never have been. I slip up occasionally, and post things I think are funny – and I’ve inadvertently offended people. And, I have practiced what I coach, and I’ve learned from those situations, and I am much more mindful of the impression I can leave with others when I am not impeccable with my word.

Please bear with me when I ask this question:

How can anyone proclaim to be a leader, especially one who holds their character up as an example for others to follow, and post offensive statements on social media related to other people based on lies, assumptions and judgments about their religion, their race, their gender, and their character?

Leadership is about being non-judgmental, open-minded, diverse, compassionate, humble, caring, empathetic. Leadership is about communicating – listening, seeking to understand, being assertive rather than aggressive or passive-aggressive. Leadership is about seeking a win-win for everyone, and seeking the greater good. Leadership is about trust and accountability. And, yes, leadership is about setting an example.

I’m discouraged by some of my fellow leadership coaches and consultants.

Normally, I don’t say anything. But, you see, I’m also practicing being fearless and authentic – two more characteristics of leadership that I admire.

So, I have two additional questions I would like to ask:

What drives you to put statements out on Facebook and Twitter, or in the media, that are based on assumptions that are not factual and can generate hateful feelings in people who see them and trust you?

Based upon your definition of character, what stops you from being mindful of the consequences of your behavior?

Georgia Feiste, President of Collaborative Transitions Coaching, Inc., located in Lincoln, NE, and Phoenix, AZ, is a personal growth and leadership coach, writer, and workshop facilitator.  She is also a Usui Reiki Master and EFT practitioner.  Her passion is success grounded in purpose and passion, standards of integrity and priorities in life.  You can also find Georgia on her website, Collaborative Transitions, Twitter, LinkedIn and Facebook.  

 

 

Daily Insight: Where am I now?

GratitudeI’ve taken a break from writing blogs for quite a while now.  I’m still reading, and learning, and responding to thoughts from the Universe, but I haven’t shared much with all of you. What I have shared has been met with mixed reviews, and I’m thinking that my contemplations may be out there too far for many to grab on to.

You see, I like change. Our world is changing rapidly, and I’m doing my best to stay focused on the impact it has on me, my family, my friends, and my community and entering into the spirit of non-resistance.

My clients are sensing that they also need to change, but many are resisting because of their inherited beliefs and values they have agreed to. I love asking the questions that require them to stop and think – and seeing the light in their eyes as they have an ah-ha moment. As my fellow leadership go-to here in Lincoln, Heath Harding,  often says, “I’m an Ah-Ha junkie!”

So, where am I now. Life has gotten interesting as I have begun re-pursuing an interest, one might call it a passion, in art. I’ve begun utilizing Zentangle as a meditation art tool, and I’m loving it so much I’m creating Zentangle prayer cards.

Along with that, I’m exploring the possibilities of Zentangle stained glass projects. This could be interesting and VERY complex.

I’ve begun drawing again, and I’m currently working on a pastel of my granddaughter, Ellie. And, I’m getting ready to dip into painting.

Why art? Because it allows me to slip into the stillness. My mind quiets, and I rest in the creative space of my heart. I am a better person for it. I am a better coach.

Have I stepped away from personal growth and leadership coaching? No, I haven’t. What I’m finding is that this branch I’ve stepped on to has deepened my commitment to coaching, and encouraging people to pursue their interests and what makes them happy. It has helped me better understand the importance of the question – “Who Are You?”

  • Sometimes this does not mean a change in careers, but perhaps it means a change in self-care and self-development.
  • Most of the time it means looking at how we spend our time, and how we prioritize what it is that we do each day.
  • It always means looking at who we are.

The question of the day is  – Who are you? Where are you now? To help you answer that question, think about the following:

  1. What motivates you? What are your priorities in life?
  2. What are your values? At the same time, don’t neglect to identify your needs (they trump values every time)!
  3. What are your strengths? (Don’t hesitate to pick up the little book, Strengthfinders 2.0 and take the assessment.)
  4. What are your interests – what do you enjoy doing and have ever since you were a child?
  5. What have you been successful at in the past that gave you great pleasure?

You are not your biography – what you’ve accomplished, where you grew up, who your parents are. The you that you are looking for is deep inside, observing the world around you.

Who am I?

My name is Georgia Feiste.  My job title is President of Collaborative Transitions Coaching, Inc. I live in Lincoln, NE, and Phoenix, AZ. My career is as an accomplished personal growth and leadership coach, writer, and workshop facilitator.  I am also a Usui Reiki Master/Teacher.  

My passion is success grounded in purpose and passion, standards of integrity and priorities in life.  My strengths are seeing possibilities in what is, recognizing we are all connected and things happen for a reason, thinking and contemplating, helping others recognize and maximize their strengths, and setting goals to help each of us, myself included, create the future we envision. 

You can also find me on my website, Collaborative Transitions, Twitter, LinkedIn and Facebook.    You may also reach me at (402) 304-1902 if you wish to schedule a 30 minute complementary consultation.

The Dance of Life

The definition of vulnerable I love comes to us from Dr. Maria Nemeth, author of Managing Life’s Energies.  It is: “to allow the winds of life to blow freely over your soul.” To be vulnerable using this definition is to say ‘yes’ to whatever life brings you.

Someone once told me that God sends us opportunities all the time, moment by moment.  We only need to recognize the opportunity for what it is and be ready to reach out our hand (or our heart) to grasp hold of it.  If we fear taking that risk, and hold our hand close to our body or turn away, that opportunity will go right on past us and land in someone else’s hand.

Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to be over, it’s about learning how to dance in the rain. ~ Author unknown

Sometimes life’s opportunities are difficult.  They require us to focus, to be intentional and to take mindful and meaningful action.  Many of us will step away from difficult situations out of fear.  We run from the risk, the difficulty, and the energy required to fully experience the stretch and growth that comes from participating fully in the dance.   When we are vulnerable, we take the risk to tackle what has been handed to us, opening ourselves up to being wounded or hurt, “allowing the winds of life to blow freely over our soul”.

The journey between who you once were and who you are now becoming, is where the dance of life really takes place. ~ Barbara DeAngelis

It comes down to trust.  Trusting in yourself and the Source of all that is.  By saying ‘yes’, by taking the risk, you step into your power and move freely and gracefully in the flow of life. It does not mean that it may not be difficult, but trust and allowing yourself to be vulnerable gives you strength you may not have known you had.

In my mind, this means sharing your thoughts and feelings, your joys and your fears.  It means daring to be who you are at all times.  It means living your values, even when it is difficult.  It means opening your heart and your mind to accept others where they are, and to be willing to honor them as they take their own risks.  It means being willing to listen to what others have to say, and honor that it is right for them at this point in their journey.

Most importantly, it means embracing the curliness of life, looking for the power and the good in everything that happens.  And, dancing the dance of life for all that it is, even when it is raining.

Do we always succeed?  Not always.  But it also means having compassion for ourselves when we fail – because we tried and we were willing.

Georgia Feiste, President of Collaborative Transitions Coaching, Inc., located in Lincoln, NE, is a personal growth and leadership coach, writer, and workshop facilitator.  She is also a Usui Reiki Master and EFT practitioner.  Her passion is success grounded in purpose and passion, standards of integrity and priorities in life.  You can also find Georgia on her website, Collaborative Transitions, Twitter, LinkedIn and Facebook.   Georgia may also be reached at (402) 304-1902 if you wish to schedule a 30 minute complementary consultation.

Overcoming Fear and Limiting Beliefs – New Offerings

It has been a beautiful week here in Lincoln, Ne.  The weather has been pleasant and the atmosphere around the Feiste household has been peaceful.  Slowly we are getting the spring cleaning in the yard and around the house completed in preparation for our daughter and son-in-law to arrive in early May.  We have plans in action for a baby shower in mid-May, with the Omaha aunts gearing up to provide a feast of fun and food.  Lord Byron, Alaskan Malamute, was interviewed for a position in a household of teenagers, and was rejected in favor of a much younger candidate (we laughed that ageism is alive and well, even in the dog world).  Karl submitted his request for retirement, so it is official and slated for September 30 of this year.  And, of course, I continue to delight in my encore career of coaching.

I am going to step off the beaten path a little bit here today.  I’ve been experiencing some convergence of the classes I’m teaching, the clients I’m coaching, and the work I am doing on building some additional classes and facilitating the Spiritual Growth Groups I hold on a monthly basis.  When this happens, I know there is something there I need to pay attention to, and share.

Some of you are aware that I am a Usui Reiki Master.  I was recently asked to teach a client Reiki so they could bring that energy into the building of their veterinary career.  I was delighted to take this on, and have been flying through the development of manuals to be used in this endeavor on an ongoing basis.

This week, another client asked that I hold a class on “Manifesting A Career that Works For You”.  Interestingly enough, I’ve been working on a book and workbook on this very topic.  It occurred to me that it would be helpful to hold some classes to “beta test” the exercises, and concepts – and now the request.

Dr. Heath Harding and I are about half way through the Create Change with Ease and Grace class, and we have a request to offer it again as two half day classes on Saturday.  This class is focused on discovering what prevents us from creating positive change in our lives, and how this prevention comes about through fear and limiting beliefs.

And, finally, our Spiritual Growth Group is discussing “Why Is God Laughing?” by Deepak Chopra.  One of the main topics of the book is fear and limiting beliefs.

If you are scratching your head, and trying to figure out where this is going, I understand.  The convergence that is occurring within these four areas, as I see it, can be wrapped up in three words:  Fear, Judgment and Resistance.  And, based on what I have learned over the last 50+ years, how we should be living our lives – Fear NOT, Judge NOT, and Resist NOT.  This gelled for me in the last week or so as I was reading a book called “How to Read the Akashic Records”, by Linda Howe.  (For a deeper understanding – please check out the blog links at the end of this article.)

So, I’m going to take a leap of faith here.  One of my limiting beliefs, and as a consequence the basis of fear, is that most people I know look to me for my pragmatic and factual view of the world.  They don’t see me as a deeply spiritual person.  And, I believe they would roll their eyes when I talk about the healing power of scents, herbs, homeopathic remedies, meditation, energy medicine, Reiki and EFT.  For the most part, I have not talked about the spiritual work I have been doing for years, and my strong belief in the ability of the unconscious and subconscious to manifest our fears and beliefs in amazing ways – physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually.  We self-sabotage ourselves in so many ways by living our lives based on these fears and beliefs, and we do a REALLY good job of it.  Most of us are masters at it.

And, so I have been asking myself (and keep asking myself) – what if we knew what these were – what if someone could help us discover all the nuances of our belief system – what kind of life could we live then?  What if we could really pay attention to our values, strengths, talents and gifts, and bring those to the forefront every single day?  What if we could experience a major shift in the fear based spirituality many of us have grown up with, and begin to believe and trust in the essence of God (or whatever name you choose to call it – The Universal Source, Allah, Yahweh, etc.) that resides in all of us?  What if we had the deep and abiding faith to help us when things get tough to know that it only becomes harder when we resist, so if we just relax, it will get easier?  This was the beginning of my desire to become a coach, and it is what keeps me going as a coach even when my practice does a stutter step and I’m fearful it will never get off the ground.

As a consequence – even though I am fearful because of my own limiting beliefs, and I have been resisting for a while now – I am going to begin offering:

  • Reiki classes for those who would like to learn and experience more. These can be taken in a small group or on an individual level.
  • Reiki sessions for those who would like to experience the stress-relief and lessening of their resistance to life’s challenges.  Sessions can be solely to experience the benefits of Reiki, or can be used to augment personal and spiritual growth coaching sessions.
  • EFT classes for those who would like to learn and experience more control and understanding of their emotions.  These can be taken in a small group or on an individual level.
  • EFT sessions for those who would like to experience the stress-relief and lessening of their resistance to life’s challenges.  Sessions can be solely to experience the benefits of EFT or can be used to augment personal and spiritual growth coaching sessions.
  • I will begin offering half day sessions and individual coaching on “Manifesting A Career That Works For You”, a mixture of discovery of who you are REALLY, and pragmatic steps you can take to move forward in your job search.
  • Dr. Harding and I will be offering another “Create Change with Ease and Grace” class in a couple of months, and again in the fall.

All of these endeavors are wrapped in my belief that each person I work with is perfect just the way they are – and much of what they need is to shed their self-judgment, fears, and their resistance to who they are and the lessons to be learned in order to see that perfection.

 Sending love, joy, and gratitude for you, always!

 Georgia

Georgia Feiste, President of Collaborative Transitions Coaching, Inc., located in Lincoln, NE, is a personal growth and leadership coach, writer, and workshop facilitator.  She is also a Usui Reiki Master and EFT practitioner.  Her passion is success grounded in purpose and passion, standards of integrity and priorities in life.  You can also find Georgia on her website, Collaborative Transitions, Twitter, LinkedIn and Facebook.   Georgia may also be reached at (402) 304-1902 if you wish to schedule a 30 minute complementary consultation.

Related Links:

Guidelines for Living Life, Fear Not

Guidelines for Living Life, Judge Not

Guidelines for Living Life, Resist Not