Health

Gratitude and the Holidays

As we approach the Thanksgiving Holiday here in the United States, please remember to take the time to express the gratitude you have for your loved ones, your life, your country, and the world.

I thought I might take some time to talk about how to maintain balance and boundaries when hanging out with those who may not see the world the way we do.

I find it very interesting, as I talk with others about their plans,  that the presence or absence of joy depends strongly on who will be at the gathering. The shoulda, woulda, couldas reach maximum volume during this time of the year. My question for us to consider is whether we respond out of duty and obligation, or do we respond because it brings us joy? If we really can’t avoid people who push our buttons, what can we do to set our boundaries firmly so that we don’t feel neglected, abused or taken advantage of?

Here are some tips for surviving and thriving with grace and ease:

  1. Just say NO. Set priorities and leave time open to rest and recharge.
  2. Plan ahead around length of time spent at an event. Setting our boundaries make the tension easier to take.
  3. Excuse yourself if the talk gets heated, or your buttons are being pushed.
  4. Be gentle with yourself. Don’t expect perfection in a family brouhaha. The family dynamics have been there FOREVER. You don’t have to fix them right now!
  5. Remember that you are not responsible for the behavior of others. You are only responsible for what you say and do, and how or whether you choose to react to what others say and do.
  6. Breathe and think before you speak. Ask yourself, “do I really mean this now, and am I willing to follow through with what I am about to say? Is it necessary, and can I say it kindly?”
  7. Drink a lot of water. Dehydration causes illness, and irritability.
  8. If you just have to have sugar, choose it wisely. Choose quality over quantity. Too much sugar is second to dehydration in getting sick.
  9. Simplify. Cut down on the gifts. Consider recycling items you own that are in great condition and you never use – they may be someone else’s treasure – give it away so that someone else can buy it.
  10. Give to your family’s favorite charity with your time, money, and love.

Gratitude is the magic elixir, the balm that soothes a weary soul, during the holidays and all year round. It helps us plug back into joy and abundance, no matter how hectic the world around us appears.

Happy Thanksgiving, my friends. May your weekend be joyful and abundant.

Intuition vs. Facts

What follows is an excerpt from a coaching class I teach entitled “Using Your Intuition”.  Enjoy!

You are interested in success.  You wouldn’t be here if you weren’t.  Good for you!  Let’s talk for a bit about the stress that the traditional pursuit of success can cause.  What is traditional, you ask?  Let’s talk about overwork, traffic jams and long commutes, skipped mealtimes and unhealthy snacking, neglected family and unhappy children, non-existent social life, intense pressure – do you want me to continue? 

We’ve talked before about living in the past, present and future.  I’d like to share a concept with you that is a bit unique.  When we are in the present moment, really participating in it fully, we are feeling.  It is a state of being.  When we react to clues from the present moment, and it brings up emotion, we move immediately to the past bringing up unresolved issues and often project them into the future.  Emotional reactions are often confused with feelings, but they are quite different. 

Feeling is constant renewal.  For me it is looking at the possibilities that are in every moment we are presented with.  It is making conscious decisions for the joy of it. A true feeling is joy, it is a feeling as if you have disappeared and have merged with everything around you; you are fully present. Reacting creates barriers, and pushes us into a sense of “what’s the use, nothing ever changes”.  Reaction is characterized by emotions and subsequent behavior, i.e., sadness, anger, frustration, worry, etc.  Every emotion such as anger, depression, frustration and even sadness is a carry-over from a thought, carries a story, and results in a self-conscious action.  When you get clear on this, you begin to pay attention to what is going on, and shift.  

Burt Harding says that “Pure feeling is the voice of God within. It ‘talks’ to us through silence and shows us (through its light) how everything IS!! This is the Inner Silence that all masters talk about.”  Some call this intuition, that inner voice that helps us pay attention to the possibilities.

So, have you made the choice to feel and sense more?  Here is the key – you must believe that your thoughts and feelings are worthwhile.  Your radar is working!  You can’t just listen to your feelings and shove them aside.  You must be willing to take action – to obey them.   Most of us have been taught that we should never take action without facts and figures to back us up.  It takes a leap of faith to take action on an intangible, immeasurable feeling, but it is often more valuable than any fact we have been presented with.  It may take a while to see tangible benefits.  That’s okay.  Take your time.  Feel the joy.

One of the things I was taught at CoachU was the concept of “Ready, fire, aim”.  Another was “Take a guess and trust your instincts.”  What does this mean for you?  As with all things in which we work to gain mastery, it means practice, and practice some more.  Experiment – improve on it.  And, watch for the payoff.  As you sense things earlier, and take action faster, you will find yourself moving forward more quickly.  You won’t be consciously deciding to do something, it will become second nature to you to respond.  Trusting your “gut” is an advanced skill necessary for success based on attraction – you must be receptive and ready to receive the information the Universal Source is sending you.   The key is to loosen up your flexibility muscle, and be ready to move quickly into new areas of thought and activity.  When you begin living from this place of excitement and growth, you will discover all those who have been waiting for you to join them.

Georgia Feiste, owner of Collaborative Transitions Coaching, Inc., located in Lincoln, NE, is a personal growth and transitions coach, writer, and workshop facilitator.  She is also a Usui Reiki Master.  Georgia specializes in career, business and personal life transitions for people seeking change in their life.  Her passion is success grounded in purpose and passion, standards of integrity and priorities in life.    You can also find her on her websites http://www.collaborativetransitions.com and http://www.rainbowbridgecoach.com . Georgia can be reached at (402) 304-1902 or you can schedule a 30 minute consultation via Automated Appointment.