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What Do Women Want?

Yesterday, one of my great Twitter friends, William Powell (commonly known as @LeadrshpAdvisor), alerted me to a trending topic on Twitter: #whatdowomenwant.  I monitored the topic off and on throughout the day, and after sifting through some of the more graphic posts, I have distilled the following major themes from the twitter flow: 

  • Women want to be admired. 
  • Women want to be deeply respected.
  • Women want to be listened to.
  • Women want to be loved.

Within these four, subtopics arose:  Women want to be understood, safe, and secure.  Women want their relationships to be based on honesty, commitment, loyalty, balance and choice. Women want to be happy. 

And, finally, as a sign of our times and culture – women want clothes, shoes, purses, money, etc. 

Many of the men that commented firmly believe that women don’t know what they want.  After watching the stream for a period of time, I would encourage these men to listen to the women in their lives.  I think they really DO know what they want, and one of the first things they want is to be listened to.  Much of what they were saying was buried under superficial words and the energy of the conversation was hiding underneath the surface. 

It strikes me that what was being said in this sometimes frantic conversation yesterday is applicable throughout the entirety of our lives, whether in our relationships, our physical vitality, our spiritual life, or our work.  These are very core values, wants and desires for most people on this planet.   The women responding to this stream are not unique – just more hooked in to social media, and not afraid to put their thoughts out there for all the world to see.

As I mused on these observations overnight – as I am wont to do – I concluded that this has been part of my personal growth over time – and while I am still not perfect, I have made giant leaps forward in my thinking.  So, I would like to share a thought with those who might resonate with this.    If you want to be admired, respected, listened to and loved, you first must give that to yourself, moment by moment throughout the day.  Then you must look around you to your relationships – family members, spouse, partner, co-workers, and people you touch daily – and give those same things to them.  Constant daily practice will create major changes in your life – and you will find that you have gained the admiration, respect, attention and love not only from those around you, but from yourself. 

And, you will be happy.

Georgia Feiste, owner of Collaborative Transitions Coaching, Inc., located in Lincoln, NE, is a personal growth and leadership transition coach, writer, and workshop facilitator.  She is also a Usui Reiki Master.  Georgia specializes in career, business and personal life transitions for people seeking change in their life.  Her passion is success grounded in purpose and passion, standards of integrity and priorities in life.  You can also find her on her websites and   Georgia can be reached at (402) 304-1902 or you can schedule a 30 minute consultation via Automated Appointment.