You Are A Leader? Really?

WhoAreYouI’m relatively active on Facebook, and somewhat active on Twitter. I’ve made some great friends, deepened some existing relationships, gotten clients, and connected with a number of people in leadership communities who are active in social media. I’ve been impressed with quite a few people, and admire most of them.

I have even participated with 20 of them in writing a book about character-based leadership, and our wish to see changes in how people perceive their role in leadership.

Here is my dilemma; my struggle:

I know I am not perfect. I never have been. I slip up occasionally, and post things I think are funny – and I’ve inadvertently offended people. And, I have practiced what I coach, and I’ve learned from those situations, and I am much more mindful of the impression I can leave with others when I am not impeccable with my word.

Please bear with me when I ask this question:

How can anyone proclaim to be a leader, especially one who holds their character up as an example for others to follow, and post offensive statements on social media related to other people based on lies, assumptions and judgments about their religion, their race, their gender, and their character?

Leadership is about being non-judgmental, open-minded, diverse, compassionate, humble, caring, empathetic. Leadership is about communicating – listening, seeking to understand, being assertive rather than aggressive or passive-aggressive. Leadership is about seeking a win-win for everyone, and seeking the greater good. Leadership is about trust and accountability. And, yes, leadership is about setting an example.

I’m discouraged by some of my fellow leadership coaches and consultants.

Normally, I don’t say anything. But, you see, I’m also practicing being fearless and authentic – two more characteristics of leadership that I admire.

So, I have two additional questions I would like to ask:

What drives you to put statements out on Facebook and Twitter, or in the media, that are based on assumptions that are not factual and can generate hateful feelings in people who see them and trust you?

Based upon your definition of character, what stops you from being mindful of the consequences of your behavior?

Georgia Feiste, President of Collaborative Transitions Coaching, Inc., located in Lincoln, NE, and Phoenix, AZ, is a personal growth and leadership coach, writer, and workshop facilitator.  She is also a Usui Reiki Master and EFT practitioner.  Her passion is success grounded in purpose and passion, standards of integrity and priorities in life.  You can also find Georgia on her website, Collaborative Transitions, Twitter, LinkedIn and Facebook.  



Dear Woman… Response

I caught this YouTube post today on Facebook.  I would like to hear your response.  Mine is below.

Dear Men:  Thank you for recognizing that men and women can stand side by side in this life; in all aspects of our relationship, and in integrity with our core values and beliefs.  Men and women alike would do well to live by the values and statements you have made.  This is not a one sided journey, and I applaud the men in this video who have taken the first step in reaching out to women, and offering their thoughts on how we might move forward.  By moving intentionally in this direction as humanity, “together we can make miracles”.


The Change Begins With You

You give but little when you give of your possessions. It is when you give of yourself that you truly give… And there are those who give and know not pain in giving, nor do they seek joy, nor give with mindfulness of virtue; they give as in yonder valley the myrtle breathes its fragrance into space. Through the hands of these God speaks, and from behind their eyes He smiles upon the earth.

                                    ~Kahlil Gibran, The Prophet

This beautiful video by Humanityhealing.com speaks of kindness.  The kindness that touches people’s souls.   They know that they are valued, despite their circumstances, when you reach out and touch them with your eyes and your heart. 

It costs little to give, and is priceless to the person who receives it.  The benefit to the giver is also tremendous.  I have spoken with friends who are so moved by the feelings that a simple act of kindness they have performed has created in them that their eyes well with tears as they speak.  It creates a connection between the giver and the recipient that can never be broken. 

Ghandi asks that we “be the change”.  In a world so often lacking in compassion, one simple act of kindness creates a ripple of blessing.  It follows in my mind that a practice of kindness could create a tidal wave.

What one act of kindness are you willing to perform today? Please do share it with us.  My wish for the world is that we create a tidal wave of kindness before we reach the end of the year.  We have 31 days in which to accomplish it. 

Ready?  Let’s be the change we would like to see.  Let me know how it goes!

Blessings to you and yours this day.