personal growth

An Ode To Turning 60

I have been thinking about how I feel about moving into my seventh decade of life. I remember how I felt when my mom and dad turned 60. I was 38 at the time, and that whole year was somewhat of a mid-life crisis for me. I’m not quite sure exactly why my parents hitting that magic age made me feel my mortality so much, but it did.  One of the major aspects of that year was that I really knew I wanted to make a difference in my world, and I started to pursue my own values and my spirituality with vigor. Somehow, I think that was a turning point for me.

I’m turning 60 tomorrow.  Strangely, I don’t think this birthday is impacting me as much as when Dad and Mom turned 60.  I don’t feel old.  Perhaps because I recognize that I love change – especially when I instigate it.  I love learning, and I think that helps keep me young.  My children keep me on my toes, even though they are close to the age I was when my parents turned 60.  Andi keeps me apprised of the joy of raising a baby, and  yet craving adult interaction at the same time.  Josef keeps me current on what is going on in the news, expressing his thoughts about books, movies, music, and philosophy.  My grandchildren – I’m sure I need say nothing more other than I love all three of them with all my heart.

I have accomplished much up to this point in my life.  I am a wife, mother, grandmother, daughter and sister.  I have touched a multitude of lives – hopefully for the best.  What I remember the most is not my work, which I did to the best of my ability, but the quality of my relationships and how much I learned from every person who has touched me.

Of course, I have realized that turning 60 is not old.  For me, it is opening up new vistas, and encouraging me to sweep away the stale, and often stinky, habits and patterns of my life, and make room for the new and exciting opportunities coming my way. Turning 60 is another turning point for me.  This time, it is one that does not bring anxiety with it, as did that turning point 22 years ago.

I wish I had known what it meant to be 60 when I was 38. But then, I would not have experienced the growth of the next 22 years that created the foundation of what is yet to come.

Today I spent with friends.  I left the house early, and moved from engagement to engagement – networking, sharing ideas, making plans and enjoying the relationship with dear people.  We are all getting older, and share the delight of adventure, the community of friends, singing the song of the soul, and the willingness to give of ourselves to create a moment, day or year of delight for someone else.

I’m excited about the future.  I’m eager for what is coming my way – new friends, new experiences, new freedom – even while keeping the best of what is here right now. I don’t know what tomorrow will bring – only that I will be surprised, delighted, inspired and encouraged to make the best of whatever it might be.

If you are still reading, thank you for enduring my rambling.  If you are 38 – know that life is amazing and wonderful and that the best is yet to be. Enjoy the time you have now, and don’t worry about the future. If you are 60 – I hope you are appreciating where we are right here and now, and are not worrying about the future.  And if you are 82 – you are blessed, and I’m looking forward to the experience of the next 22 years as I move day by day to join you.

Happy Birthday!  What a day it will be.

Coach Georgia

Letting Go and Moving On

This is a blog about personal growth.  I am not faithful in my writing here, because mypersonal growth takes me in multiple directions.  My marketing coaches tell me to pick a niche and stick with it.  That is the only way I will grow readers, and perhaps get clients.  This is difficult for me because my interests are fairly eclectic, as are everyone’s.  I read books that capture my interest, I go to church and learn, I am interested in my health (more so as I get older and things start feeling my age), and my work takes me in many directions.  In short, I am living my life.  And my days ebb and flow on that current.

I have decided that for this blog to work for me, I am going to share what I am interested in, what I am learning, and the meaning making that has for me.  If that also works for you, please join me.  Converse with me – I will answer you.  Share your opinions, even when they are different from mine.  I will seek first to understand your point of view, and have a dialogue with you.  This is where we practice the skills I often talk about in my leadership training:

  • Discerning our values
  • Developing our vision and mission
  • Setting goals and making values based decisions
  • Having fun
  • Being creative.
  • Listening, and being empathetic
  • And, so on

Today, one third of January has passed.  My word this month is JOY.  I am faithfully posting on Facebook each day what I am joyful for each morning and evening – and my followers tell me they are truly enjoying those brief statements.  I hope they recognize the everydayness of those thoughts, and that some days, like them, I have to look for the very small things because there are no huge JOY moments to talk about.

Last week was a growing experience at our church, Unity Lincoln.  We participated in Discovery Circles to find out what it is, or who, the church wants to be.  Over the weekend, we held full workshops on Making Peace With Your Past, along with a Healing Circle on Sunday afternoon.  The purpose?  To learn to be truth seekers, open and honest with each other at all times.  To call each other on it when we are being less than our best – with love and respect.  And, it was about forgiveness, letting go of what was so that you can begin to live what is.

I’m glad I participated – I relearned what I already knew.  I identified situations I need to forgive because the feelings they stir up haven’t served me well in my life.  I knew them before, but I wasn’t done with them.  These are additional opportunities for growth – and to offer myself compassion and acceptance, and rest in the joy of who I am today.  Because, I am perfect, whole and complete in the eyes of the Universe.

I have been drinking Kangan water for three days now.  A friend of mine is supplying me with the water so we can get a taste (no pun intended) of the changes it can induce in us before we take on a major investment in the machine.  Karl and I, along with Joe, are taking a hard look at the food and drink we put in our bodies, and doing some research on the affects of our “meat and potatoes” American diet.  Karl is struggling to give up his daily “dinner”, and the sandwiches he normally eats each day.  I am struggling to identify what I want for my breakfast besides the traditional breakfast food I really enjoy.  We are such creatures of habit, continually falling back into what we learned and lived as children.  It is difficult to make the adjustment to a different lifestyle, and a healthier life, because we must break lifelong habits.  Each day, we are consciously making the decisions we need to make and continuing to do the research we feel necessary to find what is right for us.

Last night, Big Dog had a seizure for about 30 seconds.  Afterwards, he paced throughout the house for about an hour and a half.  He stopped frequently to drink, but often stood at the water bowl as if he wasn’t quite sure what he should be doing or how to lap up the water.  Once we got him to lay down, he began to whine, and then to howl as only an Alaskan Malamute can.  I sat with him, giving him Reiki, for almost an hour until he laid his head down to sleep.  The remainder of the night was quiet, but sleep was elusive for us.  We didn’t know if this was the beginning of something new for him.  He is over ten years old now which is the lower limit of his life cycle.  Malamutes generally live between 10 – 12 years, and it may be his time to transition.

This morning, I am joyful we made it through the night with Byron.  He is a good dog, and so very loving of his humans.  We have had him in our home since 2006 when Joe moved in with us, and he has become part of our family, becoming our dog when Joe moved out in 2010.  It is my wish to help him through this toward whatever end we are headed.

The values I am living today are:  love, patience, generosity of spirit, focus and a willingness to be vulnerable.  Completing and posting this blog fulfills all of those.  Thank you for being part of my community.

Georgia Feiste, President of Collaborative Transitions Coaching, Inc., located in Lincoln, NE, is a personal growth and leadership coach, writer, and workshop facilitator.  She is also a Usui Reiki Master and EFT practitioner.  Her passion is success grounded in purpose and passion, standards of integrity and priorities in life.  You can also find Georgia on her website, Collaborative Transitions, Twitter, LinkedIn and Facebook.   Georgia may also be reached at (402) 304-1902 if you wish to schedule a 30 minute complementary consultation.

Life is Perfect

Do you have days where you feel that life is perfect?  As I’ve been going through my own personal growth journey after leaving the corporate world and starting my own coaching business, I have been feeling this feeling of peace, calm and perfection more often and for extended periods of time. 

Now, that doesn’t mean that there aren’t issues to deal with.  There has been much that occurred that would have driven me over the edge before.  My journey has taught me that even though a situation or person may cause me to catch my breath or grit my teeth, I can more easily step back and look for what is real, see it for what it is, tell myself the truth about my reaction to it, and ease into the moment.  It’s okay for us to have our initial reactions – how we flow through them is key to the conversation. 

Starting this blog of personal introspection and musings about what I am being, thinking, reading, experiencing or doing in my life has completed me.  Not only do I have my business side – coaching business, career and personal life transitions (all what I would consider personal growth); and my healing side – Reiki, NLP, EFT and Fibromyalgia; I have my spiritual side that I have been struggling to find a place to express.  

I love to read and share what I have read.  I love to talk and share ideas with others of like mind, and create connectedness and see the light glow between us.  I love to encourage and support others as they walk their personal growth journey.  I am doing all that, and letting my light shine brighter and brighter each day.  I know that the universe is providing me with these opportunities and I only need to reach out my heart to move into them. 

Yes, Life Is Perfect.  I’m inviting you to join me in whatever venue you would like – business, healing or spiritual.  Let’s talk, laugh, cry, and experience the perfection of life together.

Warmly,
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Georgia

Georgia Feiste, owner of Collaborative Transitions Coaching, Inc., located in Lincoln, NE, is a personal growth coach, writer, and workshop facilitator.  She is also a Usui Reiki Master.  Georgia specializes in career, business and personal life transitions for people seeking change in their life.  She is uniquely skilled in providing support and encouragement as her clients set intentional goals to attain their desires, holding open the space they need to stretch and grow. Her passion is success grounded in purpose and passion, standards of integrity and priorities in life.    Her websites are http://www.collaborativetransitions.com, where you can find her blogs about business and career, http://www.rainbowbridgecoach.com , where she and many other coaches blog about mind, body, spirit and emotion, and http://www.georgiafeiste.com where you can catch her thoughts on a wide variety of topics.  Georgia can be reached at (402) 304-1902 or you can schedule a 30 minute consultation via Automated Appointment.